We have to choose some things over others. Will we choose to go to college, or will we learn a trade? Will we spend our free afternoon reading or painting? Will we go to the gym or go home and watch television? Will we work overtime or will we spend time with our family?
The
necessity of choice is real. We do not have time to do everything,
and we really cannot “have it all.” Since we must choose, the
important question is “What do we choose?”
We
can recognize that our choices either bring us closer to who we are
and want to be, or they take us farther away from ourselves. In my
experience, the people who make the choices to bring themselves
closer to who they are are the people who thrive.
And
in order to make choices that bring us closer to who we are, we first
have to know ourselves at our core. Over the door of my office there
is a small inscription--”Know thyself.” I borrow the poetic turn
of that phrase from the Oracle at Delphi, but the fundamental
truth--that knowing ourselves leads us to walking in the world with
authenticity--remains the same 4,000 years after it was originally
inscribed.
And
what do I do, then, when I constantly feel that I am making choices
that are “not who I am?” I had a client who continually stated
that his life was not what he wanted it to be. Eventually, I
confronted this by saying, “Yes, but this is the life you have.
More than that—this is the life you made, the life you chose.”
In
those honest moments, we have to admit that is possible that the
person we are is not the person that we want to be. And then I have
another choice: Am I going to do something about it?
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